American Speech- Language- Hearing
Education and Kids
Language and the Adolescent
Helping Your Child Learn Responsible Behavior
Pragmatic Language Tips
There are several ways parents and teachers can help children use language appropriately in social situations. Social language use is known as pragmatics.
Some general suggestions are provided to help children develop skills in three major pragmatic areas. These areas were discussed in a previous edition of Let's Talk (January, 1990). Although suggestions are geared primarily for preschool children, they can be modified for use with older children as well.
Use of Different Language Functions
- Ask questions or make
suggestions to help a child use language for different purposes:
- Desired Language Function
- Suggested Question or Comment
- Comment "What did you do"' or "Tell me about ...
- Request"Tell your friend . . ." or "What do you want?"
- Question " Ask me . ."
- Respond to a child's intended message rather than correcting the pronunciation or grammar; but provide an appropriate model in your own speech. For example, if a child says, "That's how it doesn't go," respond, "You're right. That's not how it goes."
- Take advantage of naturally occurring interactions to increase use of different language functions. For example, practice greetings at the beginning of a day; have children ask peers what they want to eat for snacks; have children request necessary materials to complete an art project.
Adaptive Language Use
- Role play conversations that might occur with different people in different situations. For example, set up a situation (or use one that occurs during the course of a day) in which a child has to explain the same thing to different people. For instance, a child might be asked
to teach the rules of a new
game to a younger child and to an adult. If the child's explanations are the same for each listener, model different language patterns for an adult and a child listener.
- Encourage use of effective persuasion. Ask children what they would say, for example, to convince their parents to let them do something. Discuss
different ways to present a message:
Discuss why some requests would be more persuasive than others.
- polite ("Please may I go to the party?") vs. impolite ("You better let me go.");
- indirect ("That music is loud.") vs. direct ("Turn off the radio.").
Conversation and Narration Skills
- Comment on a child's topic of conversation before introducing a new topic. Add related information. This will help a child say more about a particular topic.
- Provide visual prompts such as pictures, objects, or a story outline to help a child tell a story in sequence.
- Encourage a child to rephrase or revise an unclear word or sentence. Provide an appropriate revision by asking "Did you mean . .
- Show how nonverbal signals are important to communication. For example, talk about what happens when a facial expression does not match the emotion expressed in a verbal message, e.g., using angry words while smiling.
Use of suggestions such as these will help foster appropriate pragmatic language skills with children who might otherwise be at a disadvantage during social interactions.
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